If you want your life to be different, you have to break the habit of ‘telling it like it is’ and start telling a new story. What better way to that than scripting?
Scripting has got to be one of my favorite tools in my Deliberate Creator tool box. Abraham talks about Scripting as a process for transforming your life. I find it to be very effective, as well as fun. Essentially, you imagine yourself to be a playwright creating the story of your life. Lets break it down into steps. I like to keep a specific journal just for this purpose, divided into different sections for each primary area of my life such as relationships, career, health. Carve some private time in your day, and sit quietly for a few minutes thinking about what you want the outcome to look like in a particular situation or part of your life.
Let your mind go, imagine a scenario where you already have what you think you want, then write about your day as you would like it to be then. See yourself arriving to your work place, walking through the door, greeting co-workers, anything that comes to mind. I like to keep this part general enough that it doesn’t interfere with the fairies of the Universe creating something for me that I can’t yet conceive of. Try not to get bogged down in too many details, but do keep the end result juicy. Ultimately you want to feel happy and fulfilled, so focus on that. But feel free to include details that get you excited about the final outcome. I’ve personally had some amazing things happen as a result of scripting, completely turning situations around, and I always recommend it to my clients. Here’s what Abraham has to say about scripting in the book Ask and It Is Given: “Pretend you are a writer and that whatever you write will be performed exactly as you write it. Your only job is to describe, in detail, everything exactly as you want it to be.” By playing this game lightly you’re less likely to activate limiting beliefs. You accomplish the two things necessary to achieve anything; you focus on your desire, and offer no resistance. “Things you have written will begin to occur in your experience as if you’re directing a play upon a stage. You are the vibrational writers of the script of your life, and everyone else in the Universe is playing the part you have assigned to them. You can literally script any life you desire, and the Universe will deliver to you the people, places and events just as you decide them to be. For you are the creator of your experience – you have only to decide it and allow it to be.” Happy Scripting, and please share your successes here with us! 🙂 Love & Light, Alexandria www.alexandriabarker.com
Ahhh. Meditation. Is there anything as soothing and relaxing as clearing your mind while you just sit and breath? You feel better just contemplating all the health benefits it gives you; reduced stress and anxiety, lower cholesterol levels, restful sleep, reduced blood pressure and more. So you carve out a bit of ‘me time’ and get nicely settled in, prepared to gift yourself with this mental vac-kay. But, just as you are about to achieved total zen, somebody barges into the room to see what you’re up to, forcing you to stop and put their needs ahead of your own or sit there for your allotted time anyway, stewing in your juices instead of basking in serenity. I feel your frustration. In fact I shared it often, until I decided to create my own sacred space where I could enjoy my spiritual practices uninterrupted. Today I want to share how you can do the same in an afternoon with a small space. Having a special place to meditate is key to establishing this healthful habit. First, it helps you avoid the trap of squandering your precious time wandering from room to room deciding where to sit, noticing all the other things you “should” be doing instead, like housework – thoughts that take you right out of your zen frame of mind! It also acts to condition your brain. Your mind and body EXPECT to be calm and quiet here, so you won’t encounter as much resistance to your practice. In my case, I reclaimed a spare bedroom’s 4’ x 4’ closet, completely transforming it into an environment so beautiful and tranquil I can hardly wait for the daily opportunity to sit and sooth my spirit! To begin, I completely emptied the closet, disposing of or finding new homes for its contents. I gave the interior a fresh coat of paint, hung sheer curtains for a door, strung white lights along the ceiling, and installed a wind chime at the entrance. At each of the four corners I placed Hematite crystals (known for their grounding qualities) and some large Rose Quartz, Smoky Quartz and Amethyst crystals I chose for their healing energy. I covered the whole closet floor with quilts, turning it into one big pillow, and hung inspiring pictures on the walls. In one corner sits a “tree”, a vase filled with cut branches, decorated with fairy lights and crystals hung as ornaments. An aromatherapy mister at the entrance adds mood and fragrance. Then, with my I-pad set on meditation music, I happily retreat from the world, to emerge refreshed and renewed 20 minutes later. You can easily create something similar yet uniquely your own. Then, with your ‘Do Not Disturb’ sign on the door, you’ll be all set to boost creativity, enhance your immune system and counteract the ill effects of stress, all by simply sitting and breathing. Ahhh. As a yoga and meditation teacher, reiki master and life coach, I’ve learned how essential meditation is to my life! Having a peaceful happy mind begins with meditation, and this peace is reflected in your outer life! Try it yourself, take the 10 day meditation challenge and feel the difference!
Simply commit to meditating for 10 days in a row, and share your experience in my private Facebook group
Affirmations are the best stress relief activities!
Affirmations are very powerful tools for bringing about the kind of life you want. They also are best stress relief activities. However, they have an evil twin – what I call the dark side of affirmations. Basically, affirmations are thoughts you choose to think because you want the results they’ll produce. Created correctly, using positive, powerful words in the present tense repeated often, they produce the effects you want by convincing your subconscious mind the conditions they describe are in fact real. For example, let’s say you’re stressed about money. You need financial stress relief activities. You know everything begins as a thought, you want to create more wealth in your life, so a positive affirmation would be, “Money now flows to me freely from all directions,” or “I am now rich beyond my wildest dreams,” or “I am wealth. I am abundance. I am prosperity.” (more…)
Deliberate Creators know that we get what we think about. We know that through conscious thinking we have the ability to shift ‘reality’ so it reflects what we truly desire. This is no longer ‘woo-woo’ as Quantum Physics totally supports it. However, as most of us have spent the better part of our lives believing the opposite, the challenge is in REMEMBERING that and ignoring ‘what is’ while we create what we want. Sometimes life is so in-your-face it’s easy to forget how powerful we are, and feel at the mercy of unseen forces. I had one of those days this weekend. First I fell into a familiar trap, then when a family member suggested I ‘practice what I preach’ I deliberately shifted my vibe, did some serious pre-paving, and averted disaster in the process.
My two seven year old cats (sisters) reside indoors due to all the inherent dangers where I live (lots of wildlife). One slipped out after dark while my hubby was BBQ-ing. I thought it odd that she didn’t come sleep with me like she always does, (she generally stays with me all night and is my morning happy thought) but I just assumed she’d gotten cozy somewhere else and would come jump on the bed later. In the morning when she wasn’t sleeping at my side I searched the house and grounds and walked up and down the road calling her. When she was not to be found I pretty much gave her up as dead, due to past experiences I’ve had with pets. In the past, my outdoor cats haven’t lasted long around here. I was so upset I actually began the grieving process. I cried, I pictured my life without her, I wallowed. Then I remembered a recent blog post by Master Law of Attraction coach Jeannette Maw, about a similar experience she had regarding her cat. I realized that through my negative thinking I was actively manifesting dead kitty. Not what I wanted! I wanted my healthy happy furry friend back home with me. So I shifted gears, and started thinking what an adventure she must be having. She made a deliberate choice to leave the safety of the house, so I saw her enjoying the feeling of grass under her feet, chasing butterflies, enjoying all the freedom I wish they could always have. I remembered how Bashar talks about every possible outcome for every situation exists and how we need only tune ourselves into our preferred version. I decided that we live in the reality where she had her adventure and returned home to me safe and happy to me. My hubby felt horrible and responsible for her being missing, so he was happy to join in my “pretending” all was well and that she’d be home soon, even as we walked the property calling her. I reached out to my adult kids and asked them to hold the vision of the best possible outcome. Then we let it go, and went on with our day. I went to bed early without her, feeling sad but accepting and trying to make peace with her choice. I must admit the tears threatened, but instead I focused on how soft and beautiful she is, the extraordinary shade of green her eyes were, what a great happy thought she was each morning. I kept picturing my husband bringing her to me. And about an hour later, that’s exactly how it played out! Out having a smoke he spotted her glowing eyes, scooped her up and walked in with her, safe and sound. The funny thing was, throughout the day I had fleeting images of a little fluffy black kitten. The next morning, when I let my kids know Kasha was home safe, my daughter (who originally gifted me with the sisters as kittens) sent me a video of a kitten she had already sourced out for me, a little black fluffy male! He’s too young to leave his mama but will be ready to go in two weeks, when I’ll be receiving him as a surprise early birthday gift! I’ve already been to meet him and fell in love. In fact I wonder if Kasha went for a walk-about to bring about his joining our family! I thought it would be fun to run a contest to name this kitty, to play along just leave your suggestion in the comment section below, if your name is selected you’ll receive a complimentary 30 minute coaching session with me! ps He isn’t actually the kitty in the pic, but looks just like him!
Happy New Year! Don’t you just love this season? Holiday happiness lingering, strangers wishing each other a Happy New Year, friends and lovers affirming to each other that this year will be better than the last. Everything feels crisp and new – a fresh new year ahead of you, like a freshly washed chalk board, waiting for you to write your story your way and create the best year of your life. No I haven’t forgotten the snowstorms, gray days, icy roads . . . truth be told, sometimes I think I’d rather hibernate till spring! But there are a few things I rely on to help me weather winter, so I thought I’d share them with you. Take advantage of the freshness of this time of year – create a vision for your future to live into! Make this the year you create a vision board filled with examples of what you choose to experience in the coming year. Write out your version of your perfect year, and read it often to stay on track. Staying active is a must! It’s your best antidote to that sluggish feeling, and balances out those extra calories. Sign up for a new class that excites you, so you won’t mind braving the elements to get there. Why not try a new yoga class, or something more active like pilates or belly dancing. You can sample them right here on this blog! We don’t get as much sun as we’re used to, so it’s a good idea to deliberately get out in it as much as you can. A brisk walk will rejuvenate you, or you can take a tip from cats; bask in sun streaming through a window and breathe in the light. Even if you haven’t seen the sun in days, be assured its still there, and try not to let the weather dictate your mood. Maybe invest in a light box to give you a boost. If you haven’t already, winter is a great time to establish a meditation practice. It just seems to come naturally this time of year. Like flower bulbs planted in the fall, we too need time to be still and allow our seeds of thought to take root and grow strong before sprouting to the surface. The stillness of winter encourages being more mindful of our thoughts. Remember, good thoughts make good things grow! What you put out there will echo back to you, guaranteed! Are your thoughts helping or hindering you? I wanted to offer you some words of wisdom I live by, adapted from The Five Spiritual Principals of Reiki. The original reads: Just for Today: I will not worry I will not be angry I will do my work honestly I will give thanks for my many blessings I will be kind to my neighbors and all living things Here’s my version:
Today, I’ll be happy, joyful and free
Today I’ll live in the moment
Today I’ll count my many blessings with gratitude
Today I’ll earn my living honestly and with Divine purpose
Today I’ll be kind to all living things.
Today I’ll judge no one and no thing
Today I’ll trust in the wisdom of the Universe
Today I’ll strive to see the divine spark in everyone.
Thanks for reading, thanks for sharing, and go make this YOUR year!
Happy New Year!